Saturday, April 16, 2016

Triplets of Separation: Jesus Leaves Mary for His Ministry

As we saw last week, Scripture shows us three incidents exemplifying the transitions Mary encountered as Jesus entered His earthly ministry: His remaining in the temple (Luke 2:41-52); the wedding at Cana (John 2:1-13), and an attempt by Mary and her other children to visit Jesus (Mark 3: 31-35).

Following His miracle at the wedding at Cana, which we can consider the unofficial start to His earthly ministry, Jesus traveled to Capernaum with His mother, His siblings, and His disciples for only a few short days before He went to Jerusalem: (John 2:12-13).

This was their last recorded family outing, for then Jesus would become fully entrenched in the demands of His Father’s business (Luke 2:49), leaving home to teach (Matthew 13:3; 20-1-16, etc.), preach (Matthew 5:1- 48, etc.) and perform miracles of healing (Luke 17:11-19, etc.), casting out demons (Matthew 8:16;9:33, Mark 5:1-17, etc.), and even raising from the dead (Mark 5:38-43; John 11:38-44).

No doubt Mary’s life changed dramatically as she adjusted to having Jesus leave their home, continuing to raise her younger children (Mark 6:1-3; Matthew 13:55), and experiencing widowhood at some point.

Scripture does not mention Joseph after the incident at the temple in Jerusalem when Jesus was 12 years old (Luke 2:41-52). Had Joseph still been living, no doubt he would have been at the foot of the cross alongside Mary, and Jesus would not have had to entrust Mary’s care to His beloved disciple John (John 19:26-27).

Mary must have felt blessed, joyful, and thankful to hear of all the wonderful deeds of Jesus, yet she must have missed Him terribly and prayed for Him fervently. So we should not be surprised that she gathered up His half-siblings, traveled to where He was preaching to a great crowd, and stood outside asking to see Him. The Gospels contain three parallel passages concerning this event (Matthew 12:46-50; Mark 3:31-35; Luke 8:19-21).

But when the crowd told Jesus that His family had come, He responded that His brothers, sisters and mother were those surrounding Him who did the will of God (Mark 3:32-35). At first that sounds harsh, as if He were disowning Mary and His half-siblings. But Jesus, Who is Truth (John 14:6), always spoke the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), and I believe His statement had three implications.

First, whoever does God’s will by trusting Christ enters the family of God, becoming God’s child (Romans 8:16; Galatians 3:26), joint-heir with Christ (Romans 8:17), and sibling to all brothers and sisters in Christ (Galatians 3:26-28). What a great blessing to all believers to be reassured that we are members of His family!

Second, Jesus knew that Mary had always submitted to God’s will, becoming His handmaiden as she accepted His amazing mission for her life (Luke 1:30,38, 46-49). In the spiritual as well as in the biological sense, Mary would therefore always be His mother, as He indicated so tenderly on the cross when He asked John to take her in (John 19:26-27).

Third, Christ’s statement was a warning to those who think they can be saved by association. At that time, Jesus’s siblings did not believe He was the Son of God (Mark 6:4; John 7:3-5), and if they were to die without trusting Him as Lord, they would go to hell (John 3:18).

Similarly, anyone born into a Christian home must not think that their Godly heritage alone is their entry to Heaven. They must make their own personal decision to trust Christ by placing their faith in His death, burial and resurrection (1 Corinthians 15:1-4) as the only Way to Heaven (John 14:6).

Still, my heart goes out to Mary if she heard Jesus apparently favoring His new followers over herself and His half-siblings. Perhaps that is why Mark makes a point of telling us that she and the children waited outside while Jesus had this exchange with His disciples (Mark 3: 31-32). In any event, she was only human, despite being highly favored and blessed among women (Luke 1:28), and she may have been hurt, disappointed, and perhaps even a little resentful of His new family.

Many mothers experience similar emotions when their child gets married to start their own family (Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:7; Ephesians 5:31), or perhaps joins the military or a religious cult. The first circumstance is usually joyous, despite some growing pains and adjustments.

The second brings honor and pride in the child’s willingness to sacrifice, but also worry for the child’s safety. And the third circumstance brings sorrow over the child’s wasted life, separation from family, and ultimately destruction in hell for rejecting Jesus as Lord and Savior.

So what was Mary thinking as Jesus gave her some tough love? Despite the initial shock over what may have seemed like rejection, I believe Mary allowed God to use this trial to strengthen her faith in His perfect plan for her Son (Romans 8:28) and to rejoice that He was fulfilling that perfect plan (Luke 1:47).

Yet as she pondered the events of this day, Simeon’s words may have come back to haunt her. Feeling hurt at her Son’s behavior may have been only the first glimmer of that sword that would pierce her soul as it pierced His side (Luke 2:34-35). God may have allowed this trial into Mary’s life to help prepare her for the physical separation from Jesus that would follow as He no longer spent time with her, as He died on the cross (John 19:30), and after He ascended into Heaven (Acts 1: 9-11,14).

From then on, Mary was in the position all born-again believers (John 3:3-8) are in today. We do not experience the physical presence of Jesus Christ (John 20:29), yet His Holy Spirit lives in our heart (2 Corinthians 1:22), He elevates us to heavenly places with Him even in this life (Ephesians 1:3; 2:6), and He will return for us so that we will always be in His presence in our glorified bodies (1 Corinthians 15:51-57; 1 Thessalonians 4:14-17).

May we be reminded by this trial in Mary’s life that God allows trials in the lives of all His children for three reasons: to strengthen our faith in Him (1 Peter 4:12-19); to conform us into Christ’s image through suffering (Philippians 3:10); and to empower us to encourage others going through similar trials by giving us experience, wisdom and compassion (Galatians 6:2).

© 2016 Laurie Collett
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Frank E. Blasi said...

Dear Laurie,
I too have pondered in the past on how Jesus "slated off" her physical family on that occasion, and how did Mary in particular took it.
But as one raised in the Roman Catholic faith (before conversion to Jesus Christ as Saviour alone) this also rebukes the idea that Mary is co-mediator with Jesus on behalf of sinful mankind, a central theme in Roman Catholicism.
Your explanation of this incident of Mark 3:32-35 is set forth very clearly, giving a satisfactory explanation on something I always thought as something he said out of lack of respect, and also very edifying.
Thank you for your contribution. God bless.

Laurie Collett said...

Dear Frank,
Excellent point, that when Jesus "put Mary in her place," albeit with love and respect, He was showing us that she is blessed among women, but not His equal and not co-mediatrix. And Mary herself acknowledges several times in Scripture that Jesus is her Lord and Savior, not her equal. I am blessed to hear that you found the post edifying, and I always appreciate your thoughtful contributions to this blog.
God bless,

Donald Fishgrab said...

Great post, Laurie.

It is wonderful to know that although Mary gave birth to Christ, He loves us just as much.

Laurie Collett said...

Thanks, Donald! What a blessing to be loved infinitely by the Almighty as a member of His family!
God bless,

Brenda said...

Hi Laurie,
It is so strange. I have just been over to another blog that I have not visited for some time due to things going on in my life. I come over to yours and you are talking about trials and how we are strengthened in our trials.
Regarding Jesus speaking about who is His family. I agree that once we are born again of the Holy Spirit we are part of the family of the One Who was the first of many brethren.
Ever since I was born again I have felt that I am 'in this world but not of this world.'
God bless you Laurie, nice to be back reading your posts.

Laurie Collett said...

Dear Brenda,
Welcome back, and thank you so much for your visit and comment! I have missed you and appreciate your stopping by. Praise God that once we are saved, we are a new creation in Him, yet He gives us the awesome privilege of being in the world to be His ambassadors and to let His light shine through us. And to be His sons and daughters in addition!
May God work all things together for good in your trials. Praying for your health.
God bless you too!