Sunday, August 24, 2014

Family Trio: Triplets of Parenting



In its simplest form, the family as God designed it is a trio consisting of mother, father, and child, reflecting His Triune nature. Not surprisingly, advice in His Word about parenting also occurs in patterns of three.

God urges parents to remind themselves, their children, and their grandchildren of His faithfulness by remembering all His wonderful works. Hearing God’s Word leads us to fear Him, to live long and abundantly, and to teach our children to do the same (Deuteronomy 4:9-10).

The fear His Word instills in us and in our offspring is respect for His power, which is the beginning of wisdom, knowledge, and understanding (Job 28:28; Psalm 111:10; Proverbs 1:7; 9:10; 15:33). That fear of the Lord is a treasure giving us stability in changing and challenging times and the strength of our salvation (Isaiah 33:6). When we and our children fear the Lord, His Spirit will rest upon us, giving us the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and might, [and] the spirit of knowledge (Isaiah 11:2).

Parents are to love God with our whole being -- with all our heart, soul and strength – and to teach our child to love God and His Word as part of our daily routine. We are to teach our child diligently, no matter whether we are at home or away from home, and at all times, whether getting up in the morning or going to bed at night. Our whole body should keep His Word, including our heart, hands, and eyes (Deuteronomy 6:5-7; 11:18), to help keep us from sin (Psalm 119:11).

Teaching our children about God and His Word is primarily the responsibility of the parents, not that of the school or even the church. However, families that attend a Bible-believing church that begins teaching Scripture at an early age will have their own teaching reinforced. As the saying goes, “Teach your child to love God, or the world will teach him not to.” God commands the father to make His truth known to the children (Isaiah 38:19).

If parents use God’s Word to illuminate our path (Psalm 119:105), it will lead us to follow His commandments, statutes, and judgments (Deuteronomy 7:11). We are not only to hear His Word, but to study it and do what it says (Deuteronomy 7:12; James 1:22). If we do this, He will love, bless and multiply us, blessing our children, our harvest, and our livestock. He will provide bountifully for all of us with corn, wine and oil (Deuteronomy 7:13).

If we trust Christ, our children are more likely to follow our example and be saved. Parents who are born again (John 3:3-8) by realizing we are sinners in need of a Savior, and by our belief in the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus (1 Corinthians 15:1-4) as the only Way to Heaven (John 14:6) are living proof of faith.

Timothy’s faith was a legacy passed down through three generations, from his grandmother Lois to his mother Eunice, and then to Timothy. Even though Timothy had to trust God through his own faith, the Godly atmosphere in which he grew up made that more likely by leading and strengthening him and encouraging him to grow spiritually (2 Timothy 3:15).

If we are saved, we set a good example for our children to follow. In his sermon at Pentecost, Peter promised salvation to whomever the Lord would call -- his listeners, their children, and even those far away (Acts 2:39).

Zacchaeus, the dishonest tax collector sought out by Jesus, hurried to comply with Jesus’ wish to visit him, came down from his perch high in the tree (swallowed his pride), and received Jesus joyfully. As a result, Jesus said that salvation had come to his house (Luke 19:5-10).

Once the father is saved, his children are more likely to observe, emulate and internalize that faith, although it is no guarantee they will be saved. Each child must come to his own repentance of sin, need of a Savior, and spiritual rebirth. God is the perfect Parent, and yet Adam and Eve disobeyed Him (Genesis 3:6). (In this case, the family trio was not two parents and one child, but One Father and two children).

God had clearly told them what they could do (eat the fruit of every tree but one), what they must not do (eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil), and what would happen if they disobeyed (they would die). (Genesis 2:16-17). This is the perfect example of stating expectations, setting limits, and warning about expected outcomes that we should follow with our children.

In today’s society, there seems to be a trend for parents to want to be their child’s peer, buddy, or playmate, rather than the one in authority. This is clearly not Biblical. Children are to honor (respect and obey) their father and mother, because God has commanded it; because it will lengthen their life; and because they will fare better in life (Deuteronomy 5:16; Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:2-3, etc.).

So let us be parents, and not chums, by disciplining our children in love when needed. It is not loving to avoid physical discipline when it is needed to protect them (Proverbs 13:24). Discipline should never be done in anger, but to encourage children in the nurture (loving care) and admonition (warning against evil) of the Lord (Colossians 3:20-21; Ephesians 6:4).

May we pray for our children as Jesus Himself prayed for us (John 17). He identifies us as God’s children because we receive the words which Jesus (through His Word and His Spirit) gave us, we know that Jesus came from the Father, and we believe that God the Father sent Jesus the Son to this earth to save us (v. 8). We belong to the Father, and we belong to Jesus, and He is glorified in us (v. 9-10). Jesus prayed that we would be kept in the Father’s Name, that the Father would keep us from the evil in the world, and that the Father would sanctify us through His truth (v. 11,15,17).

May we pray this prayer for ourselves, for our children, and for generations to follow, anticipating great blessings, as we shall see next week!


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8 comments:

  1. Dear Laurie,
    I think it's a known fact that children can discern the genuiness of their parent's faith by watching what they do. For example, teaching the kids about humility and forgiving others will not impress their minds if they see Father and Mother constantly argueing and unable to find any agreement with each other. The same with Bible devotion. The children are more likely to take an interest in Bible reading if they see their own parents showing devotion to it each day, and seeing the benefits of Bible reading have on their lives as parents. In short, how their parents live as believers will tell their kids much more than any words spoken.
    An excellent post. God bless.

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    1. Dear Frank,
      That is such a true observation and analysis. Our children are far more likely to do what we do than what we say. The world as a whole, and especially our children, watch Christians closely to see if we are hypocrites or if we practice what we preach. May we always be a good testimony for them,
      Thanks as always for your encouragement & God bless,
      Laurie

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  2. Hi Laurie,

    It is nice to spend time visiting blogs lately, my life has been really busy lately.

    Your post is a lovely encouragement to parents who are bringing up their young children today Laurie. It is very true, and was certainly true in my life, that if you 'teach a child the way it should go it will remember it when it is older'. My father died when I was eleven years of age but, although I went astray for many years, there was always memories of my father's teachings restraining me and I believe being used by God to lead me to Jesus. Now my father's voice is there always, saying 'Let's see what the Lord says.'

    God bless you and your family Laurie.

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    1. Hi Brenda,
      Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and for sharing your testimony. Your father is now one of the great cloud of witnesses, applauding your salvation and all you do to spread His Word.
      God bless you and your ministry. Praying for rest and refreshing for you,
      Laurie

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  3. Great post, Laurie.

    Our society encourages people to abdicate their responsibility as parents, leaving babysitters, school programs and churches to try to fill in. The results can be seen on the news every day.

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    1. So true, Donald! Sadly, most of the schools are pushing a liberal agenda and will turn our children away from God if we do not help ground them in their faith.
      Thanks as always for sharing your insights, and God bless,
      Laurie

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  4. There is good wisdom here! So happy to be next to you at Scripture and Snapshot.

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    1. Thanks, neighbor, for your lovely comment! Many blessings to you!

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